Photography by Bekka Palmer
I share quite a bit about my training and other active adventures on my blog, but I don’t tend to talk about who I am outside of fitness. Last week, Hallie posted a response to the New York Times article called “To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This.” To quote Hallie’s post:
It explores the idea of mutual vulnerability and how that fosters feelings of closeness. Or more specifically, whether intimacy between a set of strangers can be created and accelerated by having them ask each other a series of personal questions.
Naturally, I started to think about how this concept might apply on a larger scale. Oh yes — how it applies to you and me. I suspect the science behind this experiment is relevant to us in the blogosphere, and I’m keen to find out.
Hallie goes on to answer some of the 36 questions from the article to put the theory to the test. She uses is as an opportunity to share more about herself with readers, rather than with a partner. I’m going to do the same. Feel free to answer any questions that you find interesting in the comments!
1. Would you like to be famous? In what way? I would like to be recognized for being successful in my career, but I wouldn’t want to be Hollywood famous. I appreciate my alone time too much to always be in the public eye.
2. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why? I often rehearse what I’m going to say because talking on the phone makes me feel awkward. My mom used to have to make me call people when I was younger. I prefer talking in person (or texting if that’s not an option). This applies to personal situations, not work.
3. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you? Sleep in until 9am. Eat an outdoor brunch. Spend the day being active outside with friends. Grab an ice cream cone. Eat a homemade dinner with family. Enjoy cocktails on a rooftop. Read before falling asleep.
4. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else? I last sang to myself and anyone passing me on the sidewalk on my way home from work on Friday. The song from the wedding crashing video by Maroon 5 is super catchy.
5. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want? I plan to be physically active for as long as possible, so I hope to naturally retain a healthy body. I’ll choose a healthy mind. Sadly, there are fewer precautions you can take to keep your mental health and memories.
6. Name three things you and your
partner reader appear to have in common. I don’t personally know every one of you (yet), but I’d assume the following: 1) We both live an active lifestyle. 2) We both believe in maintaing balance in life. 3) We both choose to work toward big goals.
7. For what in your life do you feel most grateful? I feel most grateful for my health. I’ve especially felt this way since my dad and brother have been in remission from cancer. It’s a blessing to be healthy enough to have run two half marathons and one marathon.
8. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any quality or ability, what would it be? Refer back to #4. I was not singing well. However, I’d love to gain the ability to sing, especially acapella.
9. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know? I’d want to know what my life looks like (in all aspects) one year from now. I have a feeling that it’s going to be a transformational year, and I’m curious to see where I’ll be in January 2016.
10. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for awhile? Why haven’t you done it? If asked last month, I would have said that I want to run a marathon. DONE! I’ve mentioned it before, but I’d like to move West. I still love New York and haven’t felt like it’s the right time to move yet.
11. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life? I am most proud of moving to New York one week after graduation on my own and building a successful post-grad life. Most recently, I’ve worked a full-time job, maintained a blog, and trained for a marathon. It wasn’t easy.
12. What do you value most in a friendship? I value having friends that accept me exactly the way that I am, celebrate my successes, and surround me on harder days.
13. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s? My family has always been very close and warm. We’re definitely huggers and are quick to share how we feel. I do think my childhood was happier than most people’s. I’m especially grateful that my parents have a strong marriage and have set a healthy example of love for me.
14. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself? I last cried in front of others at the finish line of my marathon. I probably cried by myself watching a happy YouTube video this week. Seeing a trend? I’m a frequent happy crier.